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How to Build True Confidence by Letting Go

February 28, 2025

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The Misconceptions About Confidence

Do you think confidence is about becoming stronger, cooler, or more charismatic? Think again.

True confidence isn’t about adding more layers to yourself—it’s about stripping away the lies and doubts that are holding you back.

Most people try to boost their confidence with quick fixes like:

  • Reciting affirmations in the mirror.
  • Watching motivational videos.
  • Faking a smile and hoping it sticks.

But let’s face it—those tactics are just temporary band-aids. They don’t address the root of the problem, leaving you stuck in the same cycle of insecurity.

What Confidence Really Is

Confidence doesn’t come from becoming someone else. It comes from letting go of the lies you’ve been told:

  • “You’re not good enough.”
  • “You need to achieve more to have value.”
  • “You have to earn your place in the world.”

These aren’t truths—they’re stories you’ve been conditioned to believe over time.

The reality?

You don’t need to justify your worth. You’re already enough simply because you’re YOU.

Identifying What’s Holding You Back

To build true confidence, start by asking yourself some tough but transformative questions:

1. Where Am I Trying to Prove My Worth?


Are you chasing validation from others? Maybe it’s at work, in relationships, or on social media. Recognizing these patterns is the first step to breaking free.

2. What “Requirements” Am I Chasing to Feel Valuable?


Is it a certain job title, a number on the scale, or a level of success? These external markers often distract from your inherent worth.

3. Who Am I Trying to Please?


Are you living for yourself, or are you stuck in a cycle of trying to meet others’ expectations?

When you stop seeking approval and start aligning with your authentic self, your confidence will naturally grow.

The Secret to Building Lasting Confidence

Here’s the truth: Confidence isn’t about adding—it’s about removing.

It’s not about:

  • Becoming “better” or “stronger.”
  • Learning new tricks to impress others.
  • Hiding behind a fake persona.

Instead, it’s about letting go of:

  • The need for external validation.
  • The fear of being judged.
  • The belief that you’re not already enough.

What Happens When You Let Go?

When you strip away those limiting beliefs, what’s left is your authentic self—a version of you that’s naturally confident, without effort or pretense.

True confidence isn’t something you create. It’s what’s revealed when you stop trying to prove your worth and simply allow yourself to be.

Steps to Reclaim Your Confidence

1. Recognize the Lies


Make a list of the beliefs you’ve been told about yourself. Then, challenge them. Ask: “Is this true?”

2. Embrace Self-Acceptance


You don’t need to earn your worth—it’s already there. Begin each day by reminding yourself that you’re enough, just as you are.

3. Take Aligned Action


Confidence grows through action. Start small—speak up in a meeting, set boundaries, or try something outside your comfort zone.

Transforming Your Life with Confidence

Imagine a life where you no longer:

  • Second-guess your every move.
  • Seek approval from others.
  • Feel the need to prove yourself.

That life is possible. It begins with the decision to let go of what’s been holding you back and embrace your true self.

Ready to Start Your Journey?

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Your Confidence Awaits

Building true confidence doesn’t require anything external. It’s already within you, waiting to be unlocked.

Make today the day you stop chasing and start letting go.


Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What is true confidence?

True confidence is the belief in your inherent worth, independent of external achievements or approval. It comes from letting go of limiting beliefs and embracing your authentic self.

Why don’t affirmations and motivational videos work long-term?

While affirmations and videos can provide temporary boosts, they don’t address the underlying insecurities. True confidence requires deeper work to remove the fears and doubts holding you back.

How can I stop seeking external validation?

Start by identifying the areas where you rely on others’ approval. Then, practice self-acceptance and focus on aligning your actions with your authentic values.

What’s the first step to building true confidence?

The first step is awareness. Identify the beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck, and make a conscious decision to let them go.

Can anyone become truly confident?

Yes, confidence is accessible to everyone. It’s not about adding something to your life—it’s about removing the mental blocks and fears that are holding you back.

Julien Blanc Since 2010, Julien Blanc has been traveling the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face in over 40 countries... And millions online.

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