How to Be More Confident: Stand Out from 99% of People

Confidence is a powerful asset, and in this blog, you’ll learn how to be more confident than 99% of people by embracing self-love and authenticity. Recently, I had a powerful session with Jacob during one of my live events. It all began with a simple scream, but it led to deep realizations about how our conditioning and fears hold us back—and how reclaiming our true voice leads to confidence.

Finding Your True Voice: Unlocking Real Confidence

When Jacob first screamed his name, he wasn’t using his full voice. He was holding back, retreating into his shell—something many of us do. But why do so many people hold back their confidence and self-expression?

As children, we were naturally expressive and loud. However, over time, Jacob learned that being emotional or loud was wrong. These societal messages conditioned him to believe that confidence and full self-expression were something to be suppressed. Over time, many of us disown these parts of ourselves, resulting in diminished confidence.

The Prison of Conditioning: How It Destroys Confidence

From birth, society imposes rules and norms on us. To fit in, we condition ourselves to act a certain way. For example, if you cried or expressed too much emotion, you were probably told to stop, which led you to disown that part of yourself. This process creates a fragmented self—and when parts of you are disowned, your confidence takes a hit.

Reclaiming Confidence by Embracing Disowned Parts

During our session, I asked Jacob to embody the coach and give himself the harsh truths he needed to hear. This wasn’t easy, but when he finally broke through, he screamed out his frustrations and began to reclaim his disowned voice. This exercise wasn’t just about shouting—it was about rediscovering and embracing the parts of ourselves we’ve buried, an essential step in building confidence.

Using Anger to Build Confidence: A Powerful Tool

A critical part of Jacob’s journey to confidence was tapping into anger—not the destructive kind, but the kind that allows you to say, “Enough!” Anger can help shift you from a place of victimhood to empowerment. When you use it constructively, it gives you the courage to break free from limiting beliefs and reclaim your confidence.

5 Steps to Become More Confident Than 99% of People

If you want to be more confident than 99% of people, here are key steps to help you:

1. Awareness: Identify What’s Holding Back Your Confidence

Becoming aware of the conditioning and limiting beliefs that hold you back is the first step to building confidence. These beliefs are often buried deep, but through reflection and exercises like Jacob’s, you can bring them to the surface.

2. Expression: Unleash Your Confidence Through Self-Expression

Don’t be afraid to express those parts of you that have been buried. Whether it’s through shouting, writing, or speaking with a trusted friend, expression is vital to reclaiming your authentic self and building confidence.

3. Reclaim Your Self-Worth to Boost Confidence

Your self-worth isn’t tied to external validation. You’ve always been good enough—you just need to remove the layers of conditioning to see it. Reclaiming your self-worth is key to becoming truly confident.

4. Consistent Reminders: Reinforce Your Confidence Daily

It’s easy to slip back into old patterns. After breakthroughs, keep reminding yourself of the truths you’ve discovered. Write them down, keep them visible, and return to them regularly to reinforce your confidence.

5. Celebrate Your Wins: Confidence Grows Through Acknowledgment

Every step forward is worth celebrating, no matter how small. Acknowledge your progress and celebrate your wins—this positive reinforcement will help you grow your confidence over time.

The Journey of Confidence: A Continuous Process

Confidence isn’t built overnight—it’s a continuous process of introspection, letting go, and self-discovery. As you grow, remember to celebrate your progress. Confidence is not about reaching a destination, but about embracing the journey of personal growth.

You Are Not Alone: Confidence Grows with Support

Jacob’s breakthrough wasn’t just his own—it resonated with everyone present. We’re all in this together, and the support of others can be powerful in your journey toward confidence. Remember, the biggest obstacle to confidence is often ourselves—our own fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs.

Final Thoughts: You Are Enough

If there’s one thing to take from Jacob’s story, it’s this: you are complete as you are. Confidence doesn’t come from external validation or achievements. Your journey to confidence is about peeling back the layers, reclaiming the parts of yourself that have been disowned, and standing tall in your authenticity.

Keep pushing, keep growing, and remember—you are enough.

Julien Blanc

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Frequently Asked Questions

How can I be more confident than 99% of people?

To be more confident, focus on embracing authenticity and self-love. Reclaim the disowned parts of yourself, express your true emotions, and remove the layers of conditioning that hold you back.

Why do people hold back their true voice?

Many people hold back their true voice because of societal conditioning and limiting beliefs formed during childhood. These beliefs teach us that being too loud, emotional, or expressive is wrong.

How can I reclaim my self-worth?

Reclaiming your self-worth starts by recognizing that it’s intrinsic and not tied to external factors. Let go of societal expectations, express your authentic self, and remind yourself of your inherent value daily.

What role does anger play in building confidence?

Constructive anger can be a powerful tool to reclaim your power. It helps you move from a place of grief and victimhood to a state of action and empowerment, allowing you to break free from limiting beliefs.

Why is it important to celebrate small wins?

Celebrating small wins helps reinforce your progress and build confidence over time. Acknowledging how far you’ve come, even in small steps, keeps you motivated and increases your self-worth.